"But it ain't about how hard you're hit. It is about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much can you take and keep moving forward."

"I may not have been the first Emerald, but damn it, I'll be the first DIAMOND..."

April 22, 1958 57 Perry Street New York City

Dear Hume, You ask advice: ah, what a very human and very dangerous thing to do! For to give advice to a man who asks what to do with his life implies something very close to egomania. To presume to point a man to the right and ultimate goal -- to point with a trembling finger to the RIGHT direction -- is something only a fool will take upon himself. I am not a fool, but I respect your sincerity in asking my advice. I ask you though, in listening to what I say, to remember that all advice can only be a product of the man who gives it. What is truth to one may be disaster to another. I do not see life through your eyes, nor you through mine. If I were to attempt to give you specific advice it will be to much like the blind leading the blind. "To be or not to be: that is the question: Whether 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune, or to take arms against a sea of troubles…" (Shakespeare) And indeed, that IS the question: whether to float with the tide, or to swim for a goal. It is a choice we must all make -- consciously or unconsciously -- at one time in our lives. So few people understand this! Think of any decision you've made which had a bearing on your future: I may be wrong, but I don't see how it could have been anything but a choice -- however indirect -- between the two things I've mentioned: the floating or the swimming. But why not float if you have no goal? That is another question. It is unquestionably better to enjoy the floating than to swim in uncertainity. So how does a man find a goal? Not a castle in the stars, but a real and tangible thing. How can a man be sure he's not after "the big rock candy mountain," the enticing sugar-candy goal that has little taste and no substance? The answer -- and, in a sense, the tragedy of life -- is that we seek to understand the goal and not the man. We set up a goal which demands of us certain things: and we do these things. We adjust to the demands of a concept which CANNOT be valid. When you were young, let us say that you wanted to be a fireman. I feel resonably safe in saying that you no longer want to be a fireman. Why? Because your perspective has changed. it's not the fireman who has changed, but you. Every man is the sum total of his reactions to experience. As your experiences differ and multiply, you become a different man, and hence your perspective changes. This goes on and on. Every reaction is a learning process; every significant experience alters your perspective. So it would seem foolish, would it not, to adjust our lives to the demands of a goal we see from a different angle every day? How could we ever hope to accomplish anything other than galloping neurosis? The answer, then, must not deal with goals at all, or not with tangible goals, anyway. It would take reams of paper to develop this subject to fulfillment. God only knows how many books have been written on "the meaning of man" and that sort of thing, and god only knows how many people have pondered the subject. (I use the term "god only knows" purely as an expression.) There's very little sense in my trying to give it up to you in the proverbial nutshell, because I'm the first to admit my absolute lack of qualifications for reducing the meaning of life to one or two paragraphs. I'm going to steer clear of the word "existentialism" but you might keep in mind as a key of sorts. You might also try something called Being and Nothingness by Jean Paul Sartre, and another little thing called Existentialism: from Dostoyevsky to Sartre. These are merely suggestions. If you are genuinely satisfied with what you are and what you're doing, then give those books a wide berth. (Let sleeping dogs lie.) But back to the answer. As I said, to put our faith in tangible goals would seem to be, at best, unwise. So we do not strive to be firemen, we do not strive to be bankers, nor policemen, nor doctors. WE STRIVE TO BE OURSELVES. But don't misunderstand me. I don't mean that we can't BE firemen, bankers, or doctors -- but but we must make the goal conform to the individual, rather than make the individual conform to the goal. In every man, heredity and environment have combined to produce a creature of certain abilities and desires -- including a deeply ingrained need to function in such a way that his life will be MEANINGFUL. A man has to BE something; he has to matter. As I see it then, the formula runs something like this: A man must choose a path which will let his ABILITIES function at a maximum efficiency toward the gratification of his DESIRES. In doing this, he is fulfilling a need (giving himself identity by functioning in a set pattern toward a set goal), he avoids frustrating his potential (choosing a path which puts no limit on his self-development), and he avoids the terror of seeing his goal wilt or lose its charm as he draws closer to it (rather than bending himself to meet the demands of that which he seeks, he has bent his goal to conform his own abilities and desires). In short, he has not dedicated his life to reaching a pre-defined goal, but he has rather chosen a way of life he KNOWS he will enjoy. The goal is absolutely secondary: it is the functioning toward the goal which is important. And it seems almost ridiculous to say that a man MUST function in a pattern of his own choosing; for to let another man define your goals is to give up one of the most meaningful aspects of life -- the definitive act of will which makes a man an individual. Let's assume that you have a choice of eight paths to follow (all pre-defined paths, of course). And let's assume that you can't see any real-purpose in any of the eight. THEN -- and here is the essence of all I've said -- you MUST FIND A NINTH PATH. Naturally, it isn't as easy as it sounds. You've lived a relatively narrow life, a vertical rather than horizontal existence. So it isn't any too difficult to understand why you seem to feel the way you do. But a man who procrastinate in his CHOOSING will inevitably have his choice made for him by circumstance. So if you now number yourself among the disenchanted, then you have no choice but to accept things as they are, or to seriously seek something else. But beware of looking for goals: look for a way of life. Decide how you want to live and then see what you can do to make a living inside that way of life. But you say, "I don't know where to look; I don't know what to look for." And there’s the crux. Is it worth giving up what I have to look for something better? I don't know -- is it? Who can make that decision but you? But even by DECIDING TO LOOK, you go a long way toward making the choice. If I don't call this to a halt, I'm going to find myself writing a book. I hope it's not as confusing as it looks at first glance. Keep in mind, of course, that this is MY WAY of looking at things. I happen to think that it's pretty generally applicable, but you may not. Each of us has to create our own credo -- this merely happen to be mine. If any part of it doesn't seem to make sense, by all means call it to my attention. I'm not trying to send you out "on the road" in search of Valhalla, but merely pointing out that it is not necessary to accept the choices handed down to you by life as you know it. There is more to it than that -- no one HAS to do something he doesn't want to do for the rest of his life. But then again, if that's what you wind up doing, by all means convince yourself that you HAD to do it. You'll have lots of company. And that's it for now. Until I hear from you again, I remain, your friend... Hunter

Confidence issues have been a problem for me my whole life. This might be an over share, but I'm going to tell you something anyway. I'd have boyfriends in the past or guys that I was dating and they'd tell me that I'm beautiful and I legit would not believe them. I would look in the mirror and all I would see was my thick soccer player legs and I would HATE them. I would think I was fat. That I wasn't pretty. And for whatever reason, like 2 weeks ago, I met this guy. Literally a random guy who I gave my number to (and still haven't heard from lol). And at several points throughout the night he told me how hot I was and, for the first time in my life, I caught myself thinking in my head "you're damn right I am!"...I literally did a double take and was just like, wait who is this person? What happened to the girl who's inner voice always used to say "no you're not. He's just trying to get laid"? This is the inner monologue that used to play in my head. And it took 25 years, but things are finally changing. And I'm freaking positive that it's Beachbody that made that mental change for me. Knowing that I'm strong and healthy, and doing the personal development, and having all of YOU wonderful ladies around me has allowed me to make that change!

NEW COACH ALERT!! I am so, so excited to be announcing one of my first coaches, Miss Ellyn! I've known Ellyn for a long time; we played soccer together back in high school on a select team team called Xara and her nickname on the team was Tank.. How badass is that? Now she's... going to school and getting her PhD in Microbiology. Needless to say she's incredibly busy but loves to stay active and is currently getting her love on with some Shaun T and Insanity  WELCOME!! 

First thing, I hope you’re happy. I hope that you’re not letting the negative distract you from your goals, and why you wanted to pursue the things you are pursuing. Things won’t go right always, but as long as you stay focused and push through the bad times, the good times will be that much more enjoyable.  

...And if you've find someone who sees how unbelievable you are, open up to them. Don't be afraid. Be vulnerable. Be ridiculous. Be passionate. Be yourself and they will be themselves. Be genuine. Love deeply and fully. I want the best for you, and you should find someone who gives you the best and pushes you to be better. So, don't settle until you find that.  

Write. Meditate. Be positive. Read. Improve. Develop. NEVER STOP IMPROVING! Open yourself up to yourself, to the deep, scary, intense feeling that you have. Love yourself as deeply as you want to be loved. 

I think that that's all I want out of people--honesty. I want to know that their getting something out of their relationship with me...something positive. And I want to feel the same. If we're not getting that out of our relationship/friendship, than what's the point? If it's not a good relationship or friendship, recognize that, wish each other well, and move on. There's no point forcing any relationship. Every person should only fill their life with good. The bad will come and go. But we all deserve the best, and we should recognize the people that give us that, thank them for it, and hold onto them tightly. That's all that matters.

P.S. There are too many people in the world to surround ourselves with the people that won't see what we have to offer. I'm going to find those people that appreciate my quirks and faults as much as they appreciate my talents.